Thursday, November 29, 2007

I guess this is growing up

I had the following conversation with my good friend Telikey (whom I dated six years ago) last night:

Telikey: Oh my friend Alison is calling, can I call you back?

Me: Sure.

[10 minutes later]

Telikey: She wanted to know my list.

Me: Your list?

Telikey: Yeah, you know, THE list.

Me: No. What list?

Telikey: The list of what you require of your future spouse?

Me: Oh THAT list.

Telikey: Yep. So I sent it to her. You know, you contributed to my list.

Me: What!? How did I, no don't tell me. No, do. What? Is it something like "Don't marry a girl who totally flakes on me but I tell her I've forgiven her five years later, but still manage to bring it up all the time?"

Telikey: *laughing* No.

Me: Then what?

Telikey: Good communication skills.

Me: Oh yes. Of course. Well I'm definitely better about that now.

Telikey: Yes, you definitely are.

Me: And it wasn't just me who needed improvement. We're both better at that.

Telikey: I agree.

It was quite nice to realize that yes, I have grown up and matured over the last several years. You think you know everything in high school. Really, you don't. In fact, the older you get, the more you realize you don't know. You may specialize in a few things, but there are many more you don't know at all. With this particular relationship, I remember one reason I was losing interest was because of how immature Telikey was. I really didn't have room to talk, since I was just as immature in a different way. I have noticed a marked improvement in both of us over the years. (We remained friends in high school, but lost contact when he went on his mission until March of last year.)

See? We're all sorts of mature now.

I'm still determined to never completely grow up, and remain as youthful as possible for as long as possible. At the same time, it's nice to look around and see that I get to be an adult. I don't exactly get giddy about paying bills or stressing about things, but I do enjoy the best of both worlds. I may even decide to make a blanket fort in my living room and watch DuckTales, and no one can stop me. Unfortunately, this will probably have to wait until after finals.


Giggles said...

Maybe paying bills would be more fun in a blanket fort. I shall have to try.

emily said...

I don't even remember this person. When exactly did you date him and was I aware of it?


Fran said...

My list?

1. Honors his priesthood and keeps his covenants sacred.
2. Intelligent, well-read, and talented.
3. Taller than me with good hygiene.

Sounds simple, but it's actually quite specific.

First thing I'll do when I have my house is build a blanket fort and have a party.

AmandaStretch said...

Giggles - Ooh. Let me know!

Em - Yes. Post edited, since I didn't have access to that picture where I originally posted from.

Fran - That's pretty much how I feel. And, I'll bring the cheetos.

AmandaStretch said...

Also, tonight at the lighting ceremony for the Washington DC temple visitor's center, President Packer spoke about being grown up kids. It wasn't until his last statement about it that he included especially about Christmas.

It's nice to have his blessing.